My name is Melissa, and I’m a 23-year-old, living life embracing the imperfections and all. I currently live in the North East with my husband and dog. I am originally from Colorado and graduated from the University of Colorado, Denver with a Bachelor of Arts in English Writing. I work at a retail store nearby and blog in my spare time as a hobby that I thoroughly enjoy.
I am a typical first-born, type A kind of person. I love organizing, planning, making schedules and to do lists, and setting new goals for myself. That being said, I am quite the perfectionist in many ways. In 2012, I spent a lot of time in self-discovery and truly addressed that – yes, I am a perfectionist – and yes, that is okay! This blog is my way of exploring the freedom behind understanding, embracing, and loving the imperfect instead of dwelling on the unattainable. I am passionate about fitness, healthy eating, my dog Beans, painting my nails, and being happy. This blog follows those topics, my life, and anything else I might dream up along the way.
I’ve wrestled with being a perfectionist my whole life. Being flawed and human, I want things my way and believe that “my way” is the “right way.” I also thrive off organization and cleanliness. Without organization, I feel like everything is total chaos! I used to get easily upset about small things and let my emotions and bad attitude rule over my whole day. I used to ignore the fact that I was perfectionistic, and that only made things worse. I realize a lot of people don’t like the p word, but understanding that I have perfectionistic tendencies has helped me see my own personal struggles in a clearer light. It’s not something I necessarily like to call myself, but it helps me recognize an essential part of my personality that is never going away. I try to embrace who I am while also accepting the truth about reality – that all things can’t always be perfect.
Now I try to look on the bright side, let things slide, and take deep breaths. No, I am not perfect at accepting things the way they are, but every day is a chance for progress. I’ve realized that perfection is not bad – perfect is good. But when perfection becomes an obsession, it becomes perfectionism – a relentless pursuit of the unattainable. But through growing up, living on my own, getting married, and just being an “adult” (whatever that is!), I’ve realized that “my way” seldom happens and unorganized mess is a lot more common than I’d like. And sometimes we just have to grin and bear it. Sometimes we just have to throw those lofty thoughts of perfection out the window in exchange for what’s right in front of us: the perfectly imperfect. This is definitely not easy to accept, but it’s how I try to view life, and that is getting me somewhere.
Hopefully all this has given you some insight into who I am. Obviously, there's a lot more to me than one about page, so if you have any questions, feel free to contact me!